Obgyno Wino Podcast Episode 66 - On Surrogacy and the Tribulations of Nuance
"All that was great in the past was ridiculed, condemned, combated, suppressed--only to emerge all the more powerfully, all the more triumphantly from the struggle." - Nikola Tesla
In episode 66, Sara Rosser, a CPM at the famous Farm in Summertown, TN, is joining the Obgyno Wino team to co-host coverage of future OB-related practice bulletins. She is also anticipating her second surrogacy pregnancy on behalf of a gentleman who is otherwise unable to start a family. Between her choice to offer herself as a surrogate and her family's adoption of their beautiful son, Silas, from Ethiopia, Sara has been forced to navigate a wide range of criticism (amidst an equal amount of support!) for her decisions around pregnancy, surrogacy, and adoption. Fortunately, Sara is a beautiful unicorn of a woman guided by intuition and morality, both of which we could use a little more in this world.
Keys from our conversation:
There is a wide variety of reasons for which a person would pursue the surrogacy route as a means of building family
At the end of the day, your opinion of what another person does with their body is none of your damn business.
Is somebody else's decision or position on something bothering you enough for you to speak up? Lead with an open heart and honest, tactful questions
If you truly believe in female empowerment around birth, then you can and should ask questions. and perhaps you might even present criticism in a respectful way. But without respect for her decision, you are no better than the patriarchy that you are so determined to topple.